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Family
Should I tell my mom Im not eating anymore?
I've been struggling with an eating disorder for a while now, and I'm finally in a place where I'm not actively starving myself or obsessing over food. I'm actually feeling pretty good about it, but I'm not sure if I should tell my mom. She's always been really supportive, but she also worries about me and asks about my weight and eating habits all the time. I don't want to lie to her, but I'm scared she'll freak out or make me feel guilty. On the other hand, if I tell her, she might pressure me to eat more or get worried, and I don't know if I'm ready for that. I just want to be honest with myself and not feel like I'm hiding something from her. What should I do?
Other
Dating: Hes nice but Im not sure if hes just being polite
So I've been seeing this guy for a few months, and I think he's really sweet. He's funny, he listens, he's not a total creep. But I'm starting to wonder if he's just being nice because he's used to it. Like, he'll text me every day, but when I'm busy, he'll just say 'no worries' instead of canceling plans. And when I ask him about his day, he'll say 'nothing much' but then later tells me about his day in detail. It's like he's trying to be the perfect partner but I'm not sure if he's actually into me or just used to dating people who are easy to please. I don't want to be the girl who's too needy or too clingy, but I also don't want to waste my time on someone who's just going through the motions. What do you guys think? Should I just keep going and see where it goes, or should I cut my losses and move on?
Family
Should I move in with my boyfriend, or stay separate?
So I apologize if this is super petty, but I'm really torn. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, and we've been talking about moving in together for a while. He's been saying he wants to, but I'm not sure if I'm ready. I like having my own space, and I don't want to feel like I'm losing my independence. On the other hand, I know he's been struggling with money lately, and I'd be able to help him out more if we lived together. Also, apparently my parents are going to be moving out of the house I've been living in, so I'll have to find a new place soon anyway. I don't know if that changes anything, but I'm just really torn. I don't want to make him feel bad if I say no, but I also don't want to feel like I'm giving up my freedom. What do you think?
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Computers & Technology
How to send messages between users?
We're building a business application that needs communication between users. It's not a chat app, but users need to be able to send messages to each other, and those messages need to be stored and delivered reliably, including when the recipient is offline. I'm curious how other developers handle this. Do you usually: * design and build the messaging infrastructure yourself, including storage, delivery, reconnects, offline messages, etc. * use an existing service such as Firebase, Ably, PubNub, Pusher, or something else? If you use an existing service, which one and why? If you build it yourself, what made you choose that route?
Love and Sex
I masturbated with a 'dildo' and I bled
I'm sorry for anyone who reads this. I am sincerely asking for advice and some stories you can share with your experience before. I would also like to apologize for my language as I might have been to explicit with my use of words. I might have sounded overdramatic. I don't know if it's because I am about to have my period. I have always had restraint on myself when it comes to pleasuring myself, because most of the time. I don't really feel aroused; therefore, the lack of need for me to masturbate to release that. There comes once in a while, or every month just before/after/during period, I feel very aroused and I badly wanted to be fucked. I am sorry for the language. It's like an itch inside waiting to be scratched. For context, I am practicing celibacy, and I don't really feel sexually aroused all the time or most of the time. Just today, I tried for the first time using a 'dildo' to pleasure myself. It took quite a few minutes before I reached orgasm, but it felt ecstatic. I realized that when I kept going, it smelled bloodier and it's not as easily sensitive as it was before climax. I thought maybe I am done for the night. However, when I pulled it out, there's a string of blood mixed with fluids on my 'dildo'. I was thinking it might be my period coming up, but am afraid I might have wounded myself or what they usually say that women who didn't lubricate themselves enough would bleed? I don't know which I am between the two cases. I sincerely hope you guys would be able to share your experience. I'll check myself for the time being.
Just life
I feel lost
I feel lost. I don't know what to do with my life. I work as a constructor and I go to fitness every day. I am amazingly healthy but I still feel miserable. I don't have a girlfriend, I am living with my grandmother.