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Mental Health
Should I lend money to a friend who's struggling?
I'm feeling torn about whether to lend money to a friend who's in a rough patch. She's not exactly broke, but she's been dealing with some unexpected expenses and is asking for a few hundred dollars to cover them. I have the money, but I'm also worried about not seeing it back. She's been good about paying me back in the past, but I don't want to set a precedent if things go wrong. On the other hand, I don't want to be the reason she ends up in a worse situation. That's not exactly what I mean-I don't want to be a bad friend, but I also don't want to get burned. Maybe I should just say no and hope she finds another way? Or maybe I should offer a smaller amount with stricter terms? I'm not sure what the right balance is here.
Friends
Should I tell my girlfriend about my ex?
I reconnected with an old friend from school a few months ago, and we've been texting occasionally. It's not anything serious, just catching up. But now my girlfriend is asking about my past, and I'm not sure how much to share. I don't want to lie, but I also don't want her to think I'm hiding something. She's been really open about her exes, so I feel like I should be too. But I'm worried it'll make her suspicious or make me seem untrustworthy. Any advice? I don't want to overthink this, but I also don't want to mess things up.
Kids
Should I apologize to my kid for eating takeout again?
So my kid is 7 and I'm trying to eat at home more often. I know I'm not perfect at it, but I've been making an effort. Last week I got takeout because I was tired and didn't feel like cooking. My kid saw me order it and asked, "Why are you eating takeout?" and I told her it was just because I was tired. She didn't say anything after that, but today she told me she's not talking to me until I apologize. I don't know if this is a big deal or if she's just being dramatic. Should I apologize, or is this overblown?
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Love and Sex
I masturbated with a 'dildo' and I bled
I'm sorry for anyone who reads this. I am sincerely asking for advice and some stories you can share with your experience before. I would also like to apologize for my language as I might have been to explicit with my use of words. I might have sounded overdramatic. I don't know if it's because I am about to have my period. I have always had restraint on myself when it comes to pleasuring myself, because most of the time. I don't really feel aroused; therefore, the lack of need for me to masturbate to release that. There comes once in a while, or every month just before/after/during period, I feel very aroused and I badly wanted to be fucked. I am sorry for the language. It's like an itch inside waiting to be scratched. For context, I am practicing celibacy, and I don't really feel sexually aroused all the time or most of the time. Just today, I tried for the first time using a 'dildo' to pleasure myself. It took quite a few minutes before I reached orgasm, but it felt ecstatic. I realized that when I kept going, it smelled bloodier and it's not as easily sensitive as it was before climax. I thought maybe I am done for the night. However, when I pulled it out, there's a string of blood mixed with fluids on my 'dildo'. I was thinking it might be my period coming up, but am afraid I might have wounded myself or what they usually say that women who didn't lubricate themselves enough would bleed? I don't know which I am between the two cases. I sincerely hope you guys would be able to share your experience. I'll check myself for the time being.
Just life
I feel lost
I feel lost. I don't know what to do with my life. I work as a constructor and I go to fitness every day. I am amazingly healthy but I still feel miserable. I don't have a girlfriend, I am living with my grandmother.
Health
I want to lose weight but it is so hard
I am having a hard time losing weight, probably because I also have a hormonal imbalance. I am 178lbs and 153 cm in height. I am having a difficult time losing weight. I love my body, but I need to lose weight to avoid affecting my health later on. Aside from that, I have trouble finding clothes for my size, sometimes sitting without feeling shortness of breath due to my large tummy, and many more issues. But, it is also hard when I can't exercise every day due to some workloads I have right now in college. Whenever I try to exercise, it feels like I care more about how I look than my future. It does not help knowing I have some subjects I can't keep up with fast enough, but I really want to change, as it helps me have more energy. It feels a little discouraging sometimes that when I try to lose weight, nothing's changing, and when something's changing, it gets stalled either because I have to prioritize studying, needs to eat this food, and I have no right to say no, and many more. What should I do? I tried everything but I get mocked when I try to do things just because they say I am too much in trying to lose weight even though I am just trying to cut back foods, I still get mocked of being over too much.