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Health
Should I split the bill or let my coworker pay their share?
So, my coworker and I went out for lunch last week, and I was really hoping to split the bill evenly. They said they'd pay their share, but when the check came, they only put in $10 for their half. I was expecting $20. I didn't say anything at the time, but now I'm kind of torn. On one hand, I don't want to seem like a total stick-in-the-mud, but on the other, I feel like I should at least get my fair share. Should I just leave it, or bring it up? And if I do, how do I do it without making it weird?
Teens
Should I keep playing this sport I barely enjoy?
So I joined this local soccer club a few months ago. I was like, 'Hey, I've always wanted to try it,' but now I'm starting to wonder if I'm just going through the motions. I don't hate it, but I also don't love it. The team is okay, the coaches are fine, but I feel like I'm just showing up because I said I would. I've missed a few practices because I had other stuff going on, and I don't know if I should just drop out or if I should just suck it up and keep going. On one hand, I don't want to be that person who quits halfway through. On the other hand, I feel like I'm wasting my time if I'm not even that into it. I've thought about talking to the coach, but I'm not sure if I should just ghost the whole thing. What do you think? Should I keep pretending I'm into it, or should I just cut my losses?
Health
New phone or wait for the sale?
I just got a new job and my current phone is starting to feel outdated. I like my current one but it's getting slow and I keep dropping it. I was thinking of getting the new iPhone but I'm worried about the cost. I've been looking at the latest model and it's like $1000, which is a lot for me right now. I could wait and see if there's a good sale or if I can find a used one that's still in good condition. What do you think? Should I splurge now or wait it out?
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Computers & Technology
How to send messages between users?
We're building a business application that needs communication between users. It's not a chat app, but users need to be able to send messages to each other, and those messages need to be stored and delivered reliably, including when the recipient is offline. I'm curious how other developers handle this. Do you usually: * design and build the messaging infrastructure yourself, including storage, delivery, reconnects, offline messages, etc. * use an existing service such as Firebase, Ably, PubNub, Pusher, or something else? If you use an existing service, which one and why? If you build it yourself, what made you choose that route?
Love and Sex
I masturbated with a 'dildo' and I bled
I'm sorry for anyone who reads this. I am sincerely asking for advice and some stories you can share with your experience before. I would also like to apologize for my language as I might have been to explicit with my use of words. I might have sounded overdramatic. I don't know if it's because I am about to have my period. I have always had restraint on myself when it comes to pleasuring myself, because most of the time. I don't really feel aroused; therefore, the lack of need for me to masturbate to release that. There comes once in a while, or every month just before/after/during period, I feel very aroused and I badly wanted to be fucked. I am sorry for the language. It's like an itch inside waiting to be scratched. For context, I am practicing celibacy, and I don't really feel sexually aroused all the time or most of the time. Just today, I tried for the first time using a 'dildo' to pleasure myself. It took quite a few minutes before I reached orgasm, but it felt ecstatic. I realized that when I kept going, it smelled bloodier and it's not as easily sensitive as it was before climax. I thought maybe I am done for the night. However, when I pulled it out, there's a string of blood mixed with fluids on my 'dildo'. I was thinking it might be my period coming up, but am afraid I might have wounded myself or what they usually say that women who didn't lubricate themselves enough would bleed? I don't know which I am between the two cases. I sincerely hope you guys would be able to share your experience. I'll check myself for the time being.
Just life
I feel lost
I feel lost. I don't know what to do with my life. I work as a constructor and I go to fitness every day. I am amazingly healthy but I still feel miserable. I don't have a girlfriend, I am living with my grandmother.