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Teens
Should I buy this new phone or wait?
I'm torn between buying the new iPhone I've been eyeing or waiting for the next model. The one I want is $800, and I've been saving up for it. But I also feel like I could use that money for other things, like a new laptop or some travel plans. I don't want to feel like I'm overcommitting to something that might be outdated in a few months. On the other hand, I love the features of this phone and don't want to miss out on the experience. Anyone else in a similar situation? What do you think I should do?
Sport
Was I rude to my coworker after our workout?
So, I was at the gym today, and I was on the elliptical machine next to this guy who was really into his workout. He was sweating a lot, and I was just trying to zone out with my music. After about 15 minutes, he started chatting me up, asking if I was new, what my goals were, etc. I was polite, but I wasn't really in the mood for small talk. Then, I finished my set and stood up, and he said something like, 'Hey, nice workout!' or something along those lines. I just kind of nodded and walked away, and he followed me outside. I was already done, but I didn't want to be rude, so I said, 'Yeah, good workout!' and kept walking. But then he said, 'You're not staying for the cooldown?' or something like that. I was like, 'No, I'm good,' and I walked off. I don't know, was that rude? Should I have just ignored him? I didn't want to seem cold, but I also didn't want to engage. I feel like I might have come off as dismissive, but I didn't want to make him feel bad either. Thoughts?
Health
Should I tell my friends about my weird new habit?
I've been scrolling through TikTok for like 5 hours a day, and I don't even know why. It started as a joke, but now I'm this weirdly obsessed thing. I don't even watch the videos, I just scroll and scroll and scroll. I feel bad about it, but I also kinda like the dopamine hit. Should I tell my friends or just keep pretending it's not a problem? This might be irrelevant but I also feel like I'm missing out on life because I'm too busy watching people do weird dance challenges.
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Gym crush
There is this guy I had a crush on at my gym. I am going to the gym for like 2 months now and initially he didn’t even look at my way but eventually he noticed me too and he asked classic question of how many sets you have left and we do exercises together almost all the time and he doesn’t talk to lot of people and he is cold as well to others. but now he is sweet to me, like help setting up machine and if I struggle he rushes to help, asks small questions and have small talks about gym and sometimes teases me even very subtly etc. but I am confused because I heard he has a girlfriend so I tried my best to keep a distance and I am in the process of getting over him and I never initiate any conversation because I know I must respect his relationship and the woman involved. but this person is becoming nice by day by day!!!
Computers & Technology
How to send messages between users?
We're building a business application that needs communication between users. It's not a chat app, but users need to be able to send messages to each other, and those messages need to be stored and delivered reliably, including when the recipient is offline. I'm curious how other developers handle this. Do you usually: * design and build the messaging infrastructure yourself, including storage, delivery, reconnects, offline messages, etc. * use an existing service such as Firebase, Ably, PubNub, Pusher, or something else? If you use an existing service, which one and why? If you build it yourself, what made you choose that route?
Love and Sex
I masturbated with a 'dildo' and I bled
I'm sorry for anyone who reads this. I am sincerely asking for advice and some stories you can share with your experience before. I would also like to apologize for my language as I might have been to explicit with my use of words. I might have sounded overdramatic. I don't know if it's because I am about to have my period. I have always had restraint on myself when it comes to pleasuring myself, because most of the time. I don't really feel aroused; therefore, the lack of need for me to masturbate to release that. There comes once in a while, or every month just before/after/during period, I feel very aroused and I badly wanted to be fucked. I am sorry for the language. It's like an itch inside waiting to be scratched. For context, I am practicing celibacy, and I don't really feel sexually aroused all the time or most of the time. Just today, I tried for the first time using a 'dildo' to pleasure myself. It took quite a few minutes before I reached orgasm, but it felt ecstatic. I realized that when I kept going, it smelled bloodier and it's not as easily sensitive as it was before climax. I thought maybe I am done for the night. However, when I pulled it out, there's a string of blood mixed with fluids on my 'dildo'. I was thinking it might be my period coming up, but am afraid I might have wounded myself or what they usually say that women who didn't lubricate themselves enough would bleed? I don't know which I am between the two cases. I sincerely hope you guys would be able to share your experience. I'll check myself for the time being.